Social Etiquette 101

Last week a darling hairdresser came in for massage, yet her entire energy field appeared and felt completely overwhelmed. Yes, she had muscle pains and such, but the bigger red flag was her stress levels.

Her dream, she said, was attending Esthetician School because she loved doing hair, and making people feel more beautiful inside and out. Not an inexpensive educational venture, considering the hourly wage, but she enjoyed the work, until she didn’t.

The last number of years, especially 2025, have taken their toll on her. As so many hard working souls in the service industry have said, over eight hours a day is spent on the receiving end of hearing political opinions, and listening to horror stories that she said with nervous laughter, “… they don’t even tell to their counselor or priest!”.

If you don’t believe in energy healing, that’s fine, but surely you know when you’ve been exposed to a toxic energy vampire. She had been inundated by them!
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THE REMEDIES

Another client told me that to reduce her exposure to toxic news she had to reduce her exposure to it, and that included how she handled her daughter’s communication habit. Every day her daughter would come home from college and drown her in “O.M.G!! You won’t believe this is happening …” trauma stories from around the globe that she’d just learned in media or in class.

After weeks on end of this, mom couldn’t take it anymore and finally told her daughter, “From now on, when you get home from school, you have two disaster stories – just two – that I’ll listen and respond to, so choose wisely.” And it worked!
Her daughter chilled on the trauma-drama focus.

How genius is that?

ON THE LIGHTER SIDE

To be honest I have a very snarky, funny side (thanks dad) and occasionally would love nothing more than to blurt out a completely useless reply to constant complainers.

Here’s a few choice ones I found online, courtesy of journalist, Shaleen Ashish.

“Your problems sound very first-world from here.”
“Have you considered switching to decaf pessimism?”
“I’m not a therapist, but I’ll listen for $200 an hour.”
“That’s fascinating. Tell someone who asked.”
“Is complaining your hobby or your profession?”
“The complaint department is currently closed for mental health reasons.”
“My subscription to your problems expired yesterday.”
“I’d join your pity party, but I forgot to bring a gift.”
“Some people see the glass half empty. You see it shattered on the floor.”

Of course, those are fun to read, but not likely to be used in real-life context if I want to stay in business and maintain relations! LOL!

ON THE BEAUTY SIDE

What is the “Beauty Side”? That place one goes to recharge their batteries, dissolve the sludge, hit the reset button, and feel anew.

It doesn’t happen on its own, and most people aren’t aware enough to share the Beauty Side with their fellow human, so you gotta prepare your toolbox ahead of time.

BEAUTY SIDE TOOLBOX

If you’re out and about at work, in the public domain, here’s a few tips:

Write a list of warm-fuzzy memories that take you into a happy zone: Snuggling with your pet, eating a delectable meal, watching a sunrise, a funny joke. Keep this list on hand, refer to it, add to it, read it as often as needed.

Take a walk outside and stand close to a tree, put your nose in a flower, take photos of beautiful plants, clouds, anything that calls to you. Keep a running photo journal in your phone for quick reference when you need a break from the ugliness.

Compliment someone who wouldn’t expect it, and mean it from the heart. Could be a co-worker, could be a stranger. The way their face lights up is worth its weight in gold.

Make a secret text code and share it with anyone you trust. Tell them when they receive that code it means you’re having a 💩 day (or moment) and need a quick fix joke, happy love message, or whatever can lighten the mood. Do the same for them.

Say a prayer to someone in need. Sounds hokey perhaps, but taking the “woe is me” energy away from yourself and coming up with loving words and thoughts to send a loved one, a stranger, the person who just got whisked off by ambulance, the drivers stuck in traffic, the Earth, whatever calls you, can actually lighten your load. Guaranteed someone has been praying for you, whether they’re still in the physical or not.

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What other fun, creative, unique ways can you add to the Beauty Side toolbox? Let me know in the comments section below.

Thanks for taking time to visit this website and reading my blog.
I think you’re splendiferous!
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splendiferous

[splen-dif-er-uhs]
adjective
splendid; magnificent; fine.

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